It’s 2018 and a work colleague has an extra ticket to go see Deborah Frances-White, the brilliant UK comedian and host of The Guilty Feminist podcast. I’d not long left my ex-husband and was in my yes era. I was vaguely familiar with Deborah Frances-White, but I’d never listened to her podcast. That evening, I learnt that she begins every episode of the podcast with a phrase that would go on to change my reality in 2025: I’m a feminist but… I spent the seven years in between